A comment on contracts

I would not enter into a bdsm relation with out one. i was told once how much of a fool i was not to have a contract. i was given a whooping and then sat down and told this: you are giving of your self a gift if the Dominant will not acknowledge in a contract they are not worth the giving of the gift. If the Dominant is willing to pay with restrictions on them selfs they then show the value of the gift and most likely with treat you well. i have had contracts since then both verbal and written. yYou can never be totally satisfied but the more i worried the greater the satisfaction i required.


Even with the good friends that are now my owners. i was not totally satisfied with the contract i signed with them. Yes i know Sir is pulling at his hair and Miss is shaking her head but had this been others the contract did not eliminate many possible interpretations instead bases it on common sense. Great if you fully trust and understand each other.

i have both scars on my body and mind from thinking someone i thought i knew had the same understanding. i remember in the first part of the negotiations i asked what their desires, needs and wants were at first i was told i did not need to know them then they came back with a very broad statement which could have gone against many of my hard limits. i was quite willing to say thank you but no thanks as i had in the past with others.

Not very slave like was it . No it was not as no contract no slavery. i deserve to know what they want so i can say yes i can do that or no this is not for me. It is too late to be hanging from chains to say and where are you putting that poker. Yes i know they are friend i know tht i i am bound they can do what they want with or with out contract if i am hanging from chains, that is not really the point . The point is that they know what will end the contract in a second.

i tend to go for those who are into protocols as they are regimented and follow the rules as much as the slave has to. i was suprised that there was a vagueness to the contract as Sir and i have always been on the same page as far as rules and protocols. In a few contracts punishment has been defined as to what will be used how it is to be delivered and how many strokes for what level of offense. So this contract was not nearly as deep as ones i have had before. Why am i going against what i usually preach , trust.

i have given them my body to do pretty much what they want to i trust them to know when to stop and when to continue and the areas that i do not fully trust mutual understanding i put down in my hard limits. It was not easy for me to not insist on a lot more detail but that word trust and my want to serve in what could be a wild relation caused me to lessen what i needed in a contract. So far i am not sorry.